What I Have Learned in the Past Four Years

Wow, its been years since the last time I wrote! And you thought that this blog is dead. Well, you are not very wrong. The blog is dead, was, because today I am reclaiming this space and I am going to write again (fingers crossed). Before I begin to write what I have learned in the past years of absence, I would like to enlighten the sudden motivation to write again: I am jobless and highly restless to a point where I am desperately thinking that maybe, just maybe, writing things down will help me calm my soul.

I am a fresh graduate (like literally), only a couple of days old baby who is ready to jump into the real world. I am 21 years old and I studied Communications in an university that you probably wont know. The focus of my study is very broad, seriously. We covered public relations, broadcast, journalism, advertising, crisis management, event management and everything else in the field of communications. And I am currently waiting for a confirmation for a job that I have (accidentally) applied to.

After my graduation, and the fuss that comes with it (like what to wear, the hair, make up and shoes problems) I had some time to actually reflect upon myself what it is that I want. Sorry, I still dont know what I want, but while thinking of what I want, I figured out, maybe I should take things slowly and think about what I have learnED in the past years.

1. Friends you find in uni are friends for life

The truth to that quote has to be proven yet (since we just graduated). But it is a good feeling to graduate knowing that you are loved and cherished by your friends. You dont have to have a huge number of friends, a couple of people that you feel comfortable with is totally fine, as long as you know that you can count on them no matter what. Friends for me are like my security blanket, they keep me warm and safe in this big bad world. I am lucky enough to have graduated with the people I love, sometimes I feel like they are not my friends, they are family. So keep your friends close to your heart and I bet nothing will change in the next 10 years.

2. Your friends are not perfect and so are you

Remember, that no one is perfect. I know how tempting it is to follow the manual book of friendship. Like be there 24/7, dont date your friends ex, dont talk behind their back etc. But manuals will only work perfectly for machines and we are not machines. Your friends cannot be 24/7 by your side, they have a life too. People fall in love. Bad things sometimes slip out of our mouth. Just because you commit a bad thing doesnt mean you are a bad friend, as long as you try your best to help your friend, try to be more sensitive towards your friends feeling and apologise, if you happened to say something bad. Of course, you have to be tolerant and forgiving too. Sometimes people do things for a reason and if you know a friendship is good, you have to fight for it.

3. Stop thinking that it is the end of the world

People who read my blog or know me, are probably familiar with my bad habit: complaining. I know that it is human nature but I swear, I am so ashamed by my frequent complaining. I tried to stop but it was so hard, it was like drugs, you get addicted to complaining. I remember that I always had something to complain about, my body, my face, my IQ etc. Until one day, I watched a documentary about a beautiful mermaid girl, and she literally changed me. Her attitude towards life inspired me and her joy in life was so contagious that I cant help but feel ridiculous about myself. I am still trying to complain less and try to enjoy life. I also learn to stop seeing problem much bigger than they actually are. So every time I want to complain, I just remember that I have to be grateful. Every time I have a problem, I try to evaluate the damage and calculate probable solutions before freaking out.

4. Meet new people, make mistakes, learn a lesson or two

I have to admit that I am not all pure, clean and stuff. I have made mistakes that hurt many people, including myself. I said sorry, a thousand times, but pain does not heal instantly. I didnt want those mistake to be in vain and therefore I tried to make it a lesson: I should stop living in my dreams and realised that there are EVIL people out there as there are GOOD people. I should be more careful in judging characters and stop being so naive. What I am saying is, that it is okay to meet people, some of them might turned out to be your friend, some will just damage your life and of course it is okay to make mistakes, as long as you realised that it is a mistake and apologise. And at the end, learned from it. Learn from other people. Learn from your mistakes.

5. Always give your best in everything you do

Oh trust me, I have read that so many times and am still stubborn. Until I realised (too late) that there are so many things I regret not doing or giving my best. I didnt seize opportunities to be a better person. I didnt study harder. I didnt join any sports club. I wasnt more active in campus. I gave up even before I tried. I just didnt give my best in anything I did in the last four years. And honestly, remorse is an annoying feeling that I wish you will never have to feel.

6. Give your family a chance

Now that puberty is over, and the rebellious hormone is subdued, it is time to give my family a chance. I moved out from the house when I went to uni and had years of solitude. Now that uni is over, I am spending more time with my mom, trying to connect with my dad and hang out with my brother. And I am happy to say that I love them. I feel blessed for having such a fun and loving family.

7. Love life is just a small part of your life

Love is important, and we dont wanna feel lonely. But do not let your love problems affect your study and friendship. I have dated (or known) crazy guys; violent guys, jerks and other species. They have brought misery and lessons for me. I dont want to be committed in a relationship just because I am lonely. Love will come and I am not in a hurry. (Intermezzo: DO NOT DATE A GUY YOU MET AT A CLUB)

8. Experiments are okay, but know your limit

Like normal people, I have experimented too. My young soul back then wanted to try everything, and yes I did almost tried everything. I am lucky that I wasnt too carried away by my experiments but I have witness some people loosing themselves in their little experiment. It is not because I wasnt easily influenced and others was, it was because I had great friends who would remind me if I went a bit too far. My tip is, before you experiment, you should set a limit of how far you wanna go and then stop once you almost reach that limit. Or dont even start something you know you wont be able to stop (read: dont do drugs). Whatever it is that you wanna try, just keep in mind that you always have to be careful and take care of yourself.


That was a broad and summarised version of the lessons that I have learned in the past four years. I hope that I entertained you or inspired you a little bit. There are many more lessons to come, of course, as we dont stop learning as we grow. But not today, people, I am off to nap wonderland.




Jobless love and kisses!!